3 Steps to Finding Your Purpose and Dharma
By Matt Cooke • January 26th, 2013 • 8572 Views
When in comes to creating meaning and purpose in our lives, we all have three purpose magnets which refine our dharma and bring happiness.
1. Personal Growth
Compassionate self-awareness (feeling into your body and mind, through yoga, meditation, prayers, and journaling) is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and will lead you towards finding your purpose and dharma. The fundamentals that we consistently show up for bring happiness and direction to our daily activities. Using Pareto’s 80/20 principle, we know that 20% of our activities result in 80% of our happiness. What are the things that plug you into the source, and fill your spiritual fuel gauge? What activities take up your 20%?
2. Being in Loving/ Growing Relationships
In learning about and loving ourselves, we can then love others. Leo Buscaglia tells us, “If he desired to know about automobiles, he would, without question, study diligently about automobiles…Yet, it never seems as obvious to him that if he wants to live in love, he must spend at least as much time as the auto mechanic…in studying love.” By deepening our relationships of intimacy with others, we can discover what really brings us alive in life and how that can relate to our calling.
3. Service To Others
One of the biggest ways we can grow in love, and give ourselves in service to others, is by being a listener. Can we listen with a sense of wonderment, learning, and curiosity? By listening, it lets the person evolve and expand. When we listen with affection, without arguing, changing subjects, or thinking about what we will say next, we are seeing into the speaker’s soul. In listening to others, their thoughts can become purer and purer, leading to their best thinking, and they benefit greatly.
People become magnetized towards listeners, who help them come to their best thinking. As listeners, we feel amazing being around self-realized people who live their lives to the fullest.
“What happens when I find my dharma or purpose?” and “How do I make money living out my dharma?” The answer is service. Become expansive and wealthy by acting in service of others. Make conscious and sustainable choices in choosing a career, job, or partnership. Money is energy like everything else, and the way you karmic-ly attain it, is what leads to the most growth and happiness.
Matt Cooke is a 200-hour Kripalu Certified Yoga teacher...